Posted on 19/11/2022 on Trivia – the Spice of Life
We wish our dear ones the very best in life. In fact, Indian culture lays emphasis on seeking the blessings and good wishes of our elders. Touching the feet of one’s elders to seek their good wishes is a way of life. Similarly our friends, family and colleagues wish us on special occasions. These wishes mean a lot as they make a person feel wanted and cared for. These wishes carry a lot of weight. The Mahabharata and Ramayana are replete with episodes where the blessings of the Guru are sought.
But there are times when we feel a particular person has wronged us; this leads to a lot of bitterness in us and in those moments of anger and pain, sometimes, we subconsciously end up wishing the person ill luck. There are classic lines that we often hear in movies – tere muh mein keede pade (तेरे मुँह में कीड़े पड़े) as against tere muh mein ghee shakkar(तेरे मुँह में घी शक्कर)!! Again, in the epics there are umpteen instances where sages lose their temper (especially Sage Durvasa) and shower curses instead of blessings. In the case of sages, both the blessings and the curses are equally potent.
Here is a scene from Kabhi Khushi Kabhi Gham where Kajol showers the choicest curses on a foreigner in the typical rustic Indian style. The foreigner does not understand the literal meaning of what Kajol says but fathoms that these are not compliments being paid and thus says ‘same to you‘!
In this post, I have tried to enlist songs which have blessings as well as those that are proponents of the theory of retributive action. Sometimes the dua (दुआ) is so worded that it is effectively a baddua (बददुआ). I shall cover both kinds of songs. There are also times when people respond when asked about their well being – aapki dua se sab theek hai (meaning I am doing well because of your good wishes)! This could be said sarcastically as well.
I must say here that film songs sung on occasions such as birthdays and Vidai (after marriage) have been excluded for there are several songs of this kind. So have songs addressed to God. The songs are of the golden era.
1) Har khushi Ho Wahaan (Upkaar, 1967) Lyricist: Gulshan Bawraa; Music Directors : Kalyanji Anandji; Playback Singer : Lata Mangeshkar. This song from Upkaar comes straight from the heart. The lyrics as well as the picturization are extremely pleasing. Manoj Kumar is in captivity and Asha Parekh is just wishing that he is fine. She showers the choicest of good wishes on him. The references to light and darkness in the song are very meaningful. The dialogue in between the mukhda and the antara is very well woven into the song.
har khushi ho wahan tu jahaan bhi rahe zindagi ho wahaan tu jahaan bhi rahe roshni ho wahaan tu jahaan bhi rahe.... teri raaton pe raaton ka saaya na ho chaandni ho wahaan...
2) Salaamat Raho (Parasmani,1963) Lyricist: Indeevar; Music Directors : Laxmikant Pyarelal; Playback Singer : Md. Rafi. This melodious song based on Raag Pahadi from the movie that marked the debut of Laxmikant Pyarelal is all about wishing the lady the very best. Gitanjali is the dancer and Mahipal is on the sitar. Rafi sings so effortlessly. The song actually features a contest between the dancer and the musician, which the latter wins.
Roshan tumhi se duniya raunaq tumhi jahan ki phoolon me palne waali rani ho gulsitan ki salaamat raho.. dil chaahe toot jaaye mere dil se yoon hi khelo jeeti raho yoohi tum meri bhi umr lelo kis din dua na maangi hamne tumhaari jaan ki salaamat raho
3) Tere bachpan Ko Jawaani Ki Duaan Deti Hun (Mujhe Jeene Do, 1963) Lyricist: Sahir Ludhianvi; Music Director : Jaidev ; Playback Singer : Lata Mangeshkar. This poignant song describes the predicament of a mother whose son has to pay the price of the misdeeds of his parents. The hero of the movie is a dacoit who is on the run. He marries Waheeda and they have a son. Since they always live in fear of the police getting the better of them, the child does not lead a normal life. As a mother, she wishes that the child lives long but is at the same time fearful of the uncertain future.
Tere bachpan ko jawaani ki duaa deti hoon aur duaa deke pareshaan si ho jaati hoon
4) Khush Raho Ahl-e-chaman (Main Chup Rahungi, 1962) Lyricist: Rajinder Krishan; Music Director : Chitragupt ; Playback Singer : Md.Rafi. This song is sung as a background song when the heroine leaves her home under very trying circumstances as she has a vow to keep. This song is akin to the heart wrenching chal ud ja re pancchi of Bhabhi(1957). The music director, playback singer and the lyricist are also the same. Even as Meena Kumari leaves her home, she wishes well for her village. The video link is embedded here.
Khush raho ahl-e-chaman ham to chaman chhod chale khaaq pardes ki chhaanenge watan chhod chale
5) Sada Khush Rahe Tu Jafa Karnewaale (Pyaar Ka Sagar, 1961) Lyricist: Prem Dhawan; Music Director : Ravi; Playback Singer : Mukesh. This song is sung by Rajendra Kumar who feels betrayed upon learning that his lady love is married to some one else. The shock leads to an accident resulting in loss of vision. Incidentally, now his lady love is his sister-in-law. She is shattered upon seeing her lover in this state. At the same time, she is helpless as the situation has become extremely complicated. All she can do is wail as she hears the bitter Rajendra Kumar giving her a dua of being happy almost in the manner of a back-handed compliment as he feels deceived. Interestingly, the director of the movie is Devendra Goel, who made his debut with the movie Aankhen in 1950 which had a similar plot. The same story is reprised in Pyaar Ka Saagar. The music of both films is memorable.
Sitam aur bhi hon to woh bhi kiye ja hon kuchh aur bhi gham to woh bhi diye ja nahin phir bhi tujh se gila karne waale dua kar rahe hain dua karne waale sada khush rahe tu jafa karne waale dua kar rahe hain dua karne waale
6) Aye Dilruba Jaanewafa Tere Siwa (Shirin Farhaad, 1956) Lyricist: Tanvir Naqvi; Music Director : S.Mohinder; Playback Singers : Hemant Kumar & Asha Bhosle. This happy romantic duet is one that lifts your spirits. Both the lady and the man wish for each other’s happiness. Tanvir Naqvi, the lyricist, was an accomplished Urdu poet who chose to settle in Pakistan. He however wrote the lyrics of songs in some movies such as Anmol Ghadi, Naata, Captain Kishore. He frequently worked with S.Mohinder. The lyrics of this song are rather refreshing.
Khuda tujhko har ik nazar se bachaaye teri zindagi mein koi gham na aaye har ik pal mussarrat ka paighaam laaye jahaan jaaye meri dua saath jaaye toote na dil armaan bhara raushan rahe ae tera jahaan na ho khatm teri khushi ka khazaana tere lab na bhoolen kabhi muskuraana mohabbat sunaaye wafa ka fasaana rahe meharban tujhpe zaalim zamaana dil ne tujhe di hai dua phoole phale ae gulshan tera
7) Yahin Dua Hain Ki Tujhko Mile Sitam (Yasmin, 1955) Lyricist: Tanvir Naqvi; Music Director : C.Ramchandra; Playback Singer : Lata Mangeshkar. This movie had several memorable songs. This is perhaps one of the lesser known ones. It is a song which wishes ill for the beloved who has betrayed. There is a string of badduas in the song. It is not easy to write a love song of this kind with such strong feelings of retribution. There are very few songs of this genre.
ye hi dua hai ki tujh ko mile sitam ki saza jo mere dil ka hai woh haal ho tere dil ka bechain karne waale tu bhi na chain paaye teri hi bewafaayi tujh ko lahu rulaaye tu bhi tadap tadap kar furqat ki raat kaate guzra hua zamaana tujh ko bhi yaad aaye tadpe teri muhabbat roye teri jawaani har aah tere lab par fariyaad ban ke aaye tooten tere sahaare koi bhi ho na tera meri tarah se tu bhi apne pe reham khaaye
8) Neend Ud Jaaye Teri (Juaari, 1968) Lyricist: Anand Bakshi ; Music Directors : Kalyanji Anandji ; Playback Singers : Suman Kalyanpur (for Nanda), Mubarak Begam (for Tanuja) & Krishna Bose (for Naaz). This is a very interesting song where there are three heroines and one hero. It is a classic case of ek anaar, sau beemaar!! For Naaz, the journey has just begun and so her part is the typical romantic banter with a playful bad dua; but for Tanuja and Nanda who are old flames, the story is different. They both have their old wounds to nurse. They actually want the hero to spend sleepless nights for all that has befallen them on account of his misdeeds. As the title of the movie suggests, Shashi Kapoor – the hero – is a gambler. It is worth noting that one of the singers is Krishna Bose who has sung very sparingly in Hindi films. In this song she sings for Naaz.
Neend ud jaaye teri chain se sone waale ye duaa maangte hain nain ye rone waale maine kiyaa in zulfon ka saayaa tere liye aankhon mein kaajal lagaaya dil ne dhadak ke di aawaazen tujhe nahin aana thaa tu nahin aaya meri aankhon ke kaajal ko ashq hai dhone waale maine ki hain zafaayen mujhse kyun ho wafaayen lag gayin mujhko mere pyaar ki bad-duaayen tu wafaa karta ham to thhe bewafa hone waale koi tujhpe tohmat dharne nahin dee dil ko shiqaayat karne nahin dee kar liya dil ka khoon bhi hamne aankh sitamgar bharne nahin dee aaj lekin na maanenge royenge rone waale
9) Mere Dushman Tu Meri Dosti Ko Tarse (Aaye Din Bahaar Ke, 1966) Lyricist: Anand Bakshi ; Music Directors : Laxmikant Pyarelal ; Playback Singer: Md.Rafi. This is a song where the toxicity is rather intense. The wishes that are heaped on the beloved are extremely malevolent. Dharmendra, the hero, is enraged at finding his lady love in the party with an infant in her arms. There is perhaps more to the hatred for which one would have to see the movie. He showers one curse after another even as two dancers dance as though it is just another romantic party song that is being sung.
Mere dil se sitamgar toone achchi dillagi ki hai ke banke dost apne doston se dushmani ki hai mere dushman tu meri dosti ko tarse mujhe gham dene waale tu khushi ko tarse tu phool bane patjhad kaa, tujh pe bahaar na aaye kabhi meri hi tarah tu tadpe tujhko qaraar na aaye kabhi jiye tu is tarah ke zindagi ko tarse itnaa to asar kar jaayen meri wafaayen o bewafaa ik roz tujhe yaad aayen apni jafaayen o bewafaa pashemaan hoke roye, tu hansi ko tarse tere gulshan se zyaadaa veeraan koi veeraanaa na ho is duniyaa mein koi teraa apnaa to kyaa, begaanaa na ho kisi kaa pyaar kyaa tu berukhi ko tarse
10) Guzre Hain Aaj Ishq Mein (Dil Diya Dard Liya, 1966) Lyricist: Shakeel Badayuni ; Music Director : Naushad ; Playback Singer: Md.Rafi. This song from Dil Diya Dard Liya is full of negative emotions. The hero seeks revenge from his beloved. He wishes her ill. He wants her to undergo the same pain as him. He feels betrayed. He actually talks of how vengeful he can be.
O bewafa, tera bhi yoon hi toot jaaye dil tu bhi tadap tadap ke pukaare ke haaye dil tera bhi saamnaa ho kabhi, gham ki shaam se hum woh nahin jo pyaar mein rokar guzaar den parchchaayeen bhi ho teri to thokar pe maar dein waaqif hain hum bhi khoob har ek inteqaam se guzre hain aaj ishq mein hum us maqaam se nafrat si ho gayee hai mohabbat ke naam se
This ends my list of songs of good and ill wishes. The songs of good wishes are very pleasant to hear. Thankfully, there aren’t too many songs which are toxic. Generally, the lady or the man who feels betrayed wails but seldom wishes ill. Most of the songs of betrayal are those where the person wallows in self pity and blames the world or destiny. In this post, I have tried to list the miniscule minority of songs that border on seeking retributive justice.
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16 thoughts on “Songs of good and ill wishes”
Very interesting theme and equally interesting set of songs.
The songs which instantly came my way were,
Mere dushman tu meri and Tumhe aur kya doon
The former is already there on the list and the latter can’t be a part.
The other songs,
Dua kar gham e dil khuda se from Anarkali
Thanks for appreciating the post, Anupji! I consciously excluded the birthday songs as there are many with duas – Tu Jiye Hazaron Saal, Tumhe Aur Kya Dun Min, Baar baar din yeh aaye….. The other category is the marriage/bidai one where again one is bound to find many songs like baabul ki duaein leti jaa…. Thanks for the song from Anarkali, which was on my list! I finally chose to exclude it as there is a fervent appeal to God.
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The Anarkali song has an appeal to God. So strictly speaking it doesn’t fit, as you were going to exclude it.
Zeenat Aman, celebrating her birthday today..
Aina wohi rehta hai..
Lot of badduas here.
EK BAAR MUSKURA DO
Tu auron ki kyon ho gayi.
Little badduva here.
Dr.Shetty, thanks for these two songs! Great to remember a song of Zeenat Aman on her birthday! Zeenat’s song has so much of bitterness!
This is a nice category. Two songs came to my mind, but you have excluded this category:
1. ‘Khush raho har khushi hai tumhare liye’
2. ‘Mubarak hai tumko samaan ye suhana’
Thanks for appreciating the post, AKji! I excluded the category because such songs would be sung on occasions like vidai and birthdays.
A different and interesting post!
Mere dushman tu meri dosti ko tarse is indeed quite a harsh song, too much of ill-wishes.
The situation is bit strange, considering the hero Dharmendra is supposed to sing a song on the occasion of Nazima’s birthday party. He meets Asha Parekh there after being separated from her for long and had been made to believe that she had married someone else.
Interestingly, no one cares that he is singing such a hateful song instead of a blessful one at the birthday party.
How about Meri kahani bhoolnewale tera jahan aabad rahe from Deedar?
And these two songs from Suhaag Raat?
Ganga maiya mein jab tak ye paani rahe
khush raho har khushi hai tumhare liye – Suhaag Raat
Thanks for reading and appreciating the post, Dr.Deshpande! The song from Aaye Din Bahar Ke is one of its kind. It is extremely vitriolic. And the two girls dancing are do not care about the mood of the song or its lyrics.
The two songs that you have added – from Deedar and Suhaag Raat – are perfect!!
Sorry, I saw the Meri dushman tu meri song again. Its a New Year Party, not birthday party.
Its been long since I had seen the movie.
Your ability to recall songs related to any theme is amazing!!
I recall this song from Chadahavi Ka Chand (1960)
Ye Duniya Gol Hai, Upar Se Pol Hai – Mohammad Rafi Shakeel Badayuni – Ravi
Thanks for commenting, Ashokji! I found this song to be more of a commentary on the world and its ways with a fervent appeal to God at the end. I had excluded this category of songs where there is an appeal to God in the post. However, this is an apt song for my earlier post – The Worldly songs. You may want to read the post. Copying the link here – https://anitamultitasker.wordpress.com/2022/11/08/the-worldly-songs/.
Thanks for your response. I have read The Worldly Songs too.
In fact I read, a bit late after they are published, all your posts and enjoy them thoroughly
Ashokji, thanks a lot for the appreciation!!