Posted on 14/08/2021 by Trivia- The Spice of Life
Emotions can only be felt, never measured. Thus, when some one asks you how much you love them, it is rather difficult to quantify it – in fact impossible. I was thus trying to fathom how songs that speak of how much someone loves the other, deal with this question. In some songs, the answer is that this cannot be expressed; in others it is the shama parwana comparison that is made. And then there are those songs where the stars, the sky or the oceans come to the rescue. For example in the song Tum To Pyaar Ho, from Sehra (1963) the lady asks : kitnaa hain pyaar humse itna bataa do (tell me how much you love me) and the man replies : ambar pe taare jitne itnaa samajh lo (as many stars as there are in the sky!).
I have tried to shortlist 10 songs of the golden era that right at the outset, raise the issue of measuring or quantifying love. In all these songs, this issue is addressed in the mukhda. The words that indicate this attempt at quantification usually are itna ( इतना or this much), jitna ( जितना or as much as), kitna (कितना or how much), bahut (बहुत or a lot ), zara zara ( ज़रा ज़रा or a little bit ) and beshumaar ( बेशुमार or uncountable). Here’s my list of ten. These are not arranged in any particular order. I have not included songs beyond the early eighties.
1) Itna Pyaar Karega Kaun (Aas, 1953) Lyricist: Shailendra; Music Directors: Shankar Jaikishan; Playback Singer : Lata Mangeshkar. This song, which is filmed on Kamini Kaushal, speaks of motherly love. It speaks of how the mother’s love for her child is the most seamless and selfless. The song, which also somewhat doubles up as a lullaby, has been penned by Shailendra. The soothing music has been delightfully composed by Shankar Jaikishan. Lata’s tender and sweet voice does full justice to the song.
Itna pyaar karega kaun maa karti hain jitna Palkon ki chhaya mein daale jaan lagakar jaan sambhaale itna dhyaan dharega kaun maa dharti jitnaa itna pyaar karega kaun
2) Itna Na Mujhse Tu Pyaar Badha (Chhaya, 1961) Lyricist: Rajinder Krishan; Music Director: Salil Chowdhury; Playback Singers : Talat Mahmood & Lata Mangeshkar. This is a song whose tune was inspired by Mozart’s 40th symphony. The song is a lovely duet where the man asks the lady not to love him so much (itna), as he is a wandering cloud but the lady refuses saying that that is precisely why she loves him. Now, it is for the lady to decide how much (kitna!!) to love him. There is also a solo (sad) version of the song which is sung by Talat alone.
Itna na mujhse tu pyaar badhaa ki main ek baadal aawaara
3) Mujhe Kitna Pyaar Hain Tumse (Dil Tera Deewana, 1962) Lyricist: Shailendra; Music Directors: Shankar Jaikishan; Playback Singers : Lata Mangeshkar & Md.Rafi. This movie was a remake of the Tamil film Sabhash Meena (1958). It is a lighthearted movie with some marvellous songs. It has Shammi Kapoor and Mala Sinha playing the lead roles. This romantic duet has an interesting question hurled first by the man at the lady and then repeated by the lady to the man – if you want to know how much I love you, please ask your own heart!
Mujhe kitna pyaar hain tum se apne hi dil se poochho tum jise dil diyaa hain wo tum ho meri zindagi tumhaari hain
4) Karte Ho Mujhse Kitni Mohabbat (Bekhabar, 1965, Unreleased??) Lyricist: Raj Mehdi Ali Khan; Music Director: S. Mohinder; Playback Singers : Asha Bhosle & Md.Rafi. This appears to be an unreleased movie starring Dara Singh, Sailesh Kumar and Sayeeda Khan. The songs of the movie are very hummable. The lady teasingly asks – how much do you love me (karte ho mujhse kitni mohabbat?). The man answers as much as the moth loves the lamp (jitni shamma se parwaana). Shamma-parwaana is the typical metaphor for self sacrificing love – almost the gold standard for the male lover.
Karte ho mujhse kitni mohabbat jitni shamma se parwaana
Fortunately, a video of the song is available. I am posting both the video and the audio links here, though the quality of both is not great.
5) Mujhe Tumse Bahut Hain Pyaar (Khazaana, 1951) Lyricist: Rajendra Krishan; Music Director: C.Ramchandra; Playback Singers : Lata Mangeshkar & Md.Rafi. This film is touted to be one of the most important ones made on invention and adventure. The video of the song is, unfortunately, not available. But the lyrics amply suggest that it is a fun song. The lady says that she loves the man a lot (बहुत – bahut ) but the man flatly refuses and says – no, you love me only a little (नहीं जी, ज़रा ज़रा – nahin ji, zara zara).
Mujhe tum se bahut hain pyaar bahut hain pyaar nahin ji, zara zara
6) Humne Tujhko Pyaar Kiya Hain Jitna (Dulha Dulhan, 1964) Lyricist: Indeevar; Music Directors: Kalyanji Anandji; Playback Singer : Mukesh/Lata Mangeshkar. A movie based on temporary memory loss – which is a very clichéd theme – is bound to have a song like this. This movie has Raj Kapoor (looking rather jaded and avuncular) and Sadhana as the lead pair. The hero is not modest here as he is heartbroken. He says – who will love you as much as I do? Interestingly, there are two versions of the song – the male solo sung by Mukesh and the female solo by Lata. I expected the female version also to be rather sad since the lyrics seemed to so suggest. However, it turns out that it is a somewhat lighthearted song to clear all misgivings. The opening lyrics (mukhda) are the same in both versions but the antaras have different lyrics. Lata sings the song a little differently and maybe a tad faster.
Humne tujhko pyaar kiya hain jitna kaun karega itna, kaun karega itna
7) Bol Mere Saathiya Kitna Mujhse Pyaar Hain (Lalkaar, 1972) Lyricist: Hasrat Jaipuri; Music Directors: Kalyanji Anandji; Playback Singer: Md.Rafi & Lata Mangeshkar. Lalkaar, was written, produced and directed by Ramanand Sagar, who sought to continue Chetan Anand’s genre of war movies. But to make it more mainstream, a love triangle was also added to the plot. This song features Rajendra Kumar and Mala Sinha. It is a hummable song sung by Rafi and Lata. The question asked by the man is – how much do you love me? The lady replies – as much as the depth of the ocean and the elevation of the skies.
Bol mere sathiyaa kitna mujhse pyaar hain jitni saagar ki gehraayi jitni amber ki oonchhayi itna tumse pyaar hain
8) Pyaar Karte Hain Hum Tumhe Itna (Hotel, 1981) Lyricist: Indeevar; Music Director: Usha Khanna; Playback Singers : Manhar & Asha Bhosle. This lovely duet is from a not so famous movie. The movie is about a man who discovers that his new hotel is built on a graveyard, when terrible things start happening. The lead roles are played by Navin Nischol and Neelam Mehra. Manhar is the male playback singer; his voice is very different but melodious. I would rate this as one of the best songs that Usha Khanna has directed the music for. Though the movie is forgettable, the duet is really soothing. Both lovers claim to love each other immeasurably – do aankhen to kya do jahaan mein samaaye na jitna.
Pyaar karte hain hum tumhein itnaa do aankhein to kyaa do jahaan mein samaaye na jitna
9) Dekha Hain Teri Aankhon Mein (Pyaar Hi Pyaar, 1969) Lyricist: Hasrat Jaipuri; Music Directors: Shankar Jaikishan; Playback Singer : Md.Rafi. This song features Dharmendra and Vyjantimala; this is said to be the only movie in which they acted together. Rafi once again spins his magic. The song has Dharmendra at the wheel, accompanied by the heroine and her friends who are off, for a picnic. Vyjayantimala was close to hanging her boots around this time. Yet, she looks stunningly beautiful. There is a reference in the song’s opening lines of how the man believes that he has seen/felt immeasurable (beshumaar) love in the eyes and utterances of the lady.
Dekha hain teri aankhon mein pyaar hi pyaar beshumaar paaya hain teri baaton mein pyaar hi pyaar beshumaar
10) Hume Tumse Pyaar Kitna (Kudrat, 1981) Lyricist: Majrooh Sultanpuri; Music Director: R.D.Burman; Playback Singers: Kishore Kumar/ Parveen Sultana. I wanted to end this post with this dual version song; the beauty of this song is that the tune is the same in both versions but Kishore Kumar renders it like any other romantic number whereas Parveen Sultana sings it in the thumri style in Raag Bhairavi; she won a Filmfare award for the song. Though the import of the lyrics is the same in both versions, Majrooh Sultanpuri has made an earnest effort to give Sultana’s rendition an earthy touch (with words like jiyaraa, manvaa, nayanva, sajanvaa) while the Kishore version is in Hindustani. In the mukhda of this song the lover candidly says he/she does not know how much love there is for the beloved. But one thing is for sure – that the lover cannot live without the beloved.
Hume tumse pyaar kitna ye hum nahin jaante magar ji nahin sakte tumhare bina
This brings me to the end of my list of ten. There were a few more songs on this theme but I excluded them for the sake of brevity. I am sure lovers of retro Hindi film music who may visit my blog, would add them. Love is an emotion that cannot be measured. It can only be experienced. Thus, it is best to never ask a person how much he or she loves you.
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6 thoughts on “Songs that Measure (⚖) Love”
Nice to read one more enjoyable post with a good choice of songs. The ones from Chhaya and Kudrat (both versions) are my all-time favorites, but I was specially glad to see Pyar karte hai hum tumhe itna. I always liked the song but never expected it to see it in any songs list on any blog, considering it is from the 80s and from a Ramsay movie.
The first song that came to my mind is from the 90s – Bahut pyar karte hain tumko sanam from Saajan 1991. Here’s the male version, which I like
Some more songs:
1. Itna hai tumse pyar mujhe – Suraj 1966
2. Kitna pyar tumhe karte hain – Ek Ladka Ek Ladki 1992
3. Tujhe itna pyar karen – Kudrat Ka Kanoon 1987
4. O piya o piya pyar kyun itna kiya – Agnisakshi 1996
There are some more from 80s and 90s which I could recollect, though not posting.
Thanks a lot, for all the lovely songs that you have added, Dr.Deshpande! I should have remembered the song from Suraj. Don’t know how it slipped out of my mind. I am familiar with the more recent songs but since my list of 10 was done, I did not look at them seriously.
The song from Hotel – Pyaar Karte Hain Hum – is my personal favourite too. It is a hidden gem. I was pleasantly surprised to learn that the music director is Usha Khanna. I post any good song which fits my theme, even if it is from the 1980s.
A good post, can’t think of a song to add at the moment.
Will be back if I get one.
Anupji, thanks for reading!
When I started reading it I thought of ‘Humne tujhko pyar kiya hai jitna, kaun karega itna’, and then I found it was there. It has both ‘jitna’ and ‘itna’. Nice theme and presented very well. You have mentioned ‘beshumar’ but not posted any song. How about ‘Dekha hai teri aankhon mein pyar hi pyar beshumar’?
Thanks, AKji, for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. I have mentioned the song from Pyaar Hi Pyaar at #9, AKji!