Posted on 15/05/2021 by Trivia – The Spice of Life
Haven’t we all been in a fix sometime or the other? Don’t we find it difficult to make a choice when confronted with options? The dilemmas can be of the first world or the more existential ones. There are several songs which espouse such conundrums. Love triangles, old commitments, child marriages, crimes like murder and kidnapping – all of them provide fertile ground for conundrums. But if you look at it threadbare, relationships are the main reason for many a dilemma. There is a choice to be made – whether to speak up or suffer silently, whether to confess or deny, whether to act on impulse or be patient.
Here, I have tried to showcase songs, largely of the golden era, which juxtapose options and thus, present dilemmas. Some are frivolous whereas the others are weighty. The words/phrases that suggest that there is a quandary are doraha (दोराहा), mushkil (मुश्किल) and uljhan (उलझन); interrogative phrases/sentences such as kise chunu (किसे चुनू), karun ya na karun (करूँ या न करूँ), kahun ya na kahun (कहूँ या न कहूँ) also convey the same. Each of the songs below presents a conundrum – which could be serious or silly – but there is one nevertheless. While in some songs, the mukhda sometimes begins with the dilemma, in others the thought is built through the song and is eventually expressed in the final antara.
1) Kisko Pyaar Karun (Tumse Achcha Kaun Hain, 1969) Lyricist: Rajinder Krishan; Music Directors: Shankar Jaikishan; Playback Singer: Md.Rafi. This song hits the ground running as far as the theme of this post goes!! Rafi sings exuberantly for Shammi Kapoor. Shammi is flooded with phone calls with several girls wanting to date him. He is spoilt for choice. He is just not able to make up his mind as to whom to choose. After all, as he says he has only one heart (mere liye to ho gayi mushkil, kaise baantu ek mera dil). He is in a fix and hence this song. However, this is a club performance with this song as a mere distraction, for, some more important activity is played out behind the scenes.
Kis kis kis kisko kisko kisko pyar karun, kaise pyar karun tu bhi hain ye bhi hain vo bhi hain
2) Haal-e-Dil Main Kya Kahun (Uran Khatola, 1955) Lyricist: Shakeel Badayuni; Music Director: Naushad; Playback Singer: Lata Mangeshkar. This song from Uran Khatola is not one of the popular ones. It has Nimmi (disguised as a man) who is in love with Dilip Kumar, singing, even as Dilip Kumar is seated in front of her with the Rani (Surya Kumari), somewhat unwillingly though. As Nimmi is ordered to sing, she is in a fix. On one hand is the queen and the other the man she loves. And thus, the lyrics of the song beautifully explain her dilemma. The words josh and hosh have been used very aptly by the lyricist (Shakeel Badayuni)
Haal-e-dil main kya kahun, mushkil hain mere saamne bhole bhale rup mein Qatil hain mere saamne Josh kehta hain ke chal aur hosh kehta hain sambhal kiska kehna maan lu
3) Mujhe Tum Mil Gaye Humdum (Love in Tokyo, 1966) Lyricist: Hasrat Jaipuri; Music Directors: Shankar Jaikishan; Playback Singer: Lata Mangeshkar. This is a lovely song sung by Lata Mangeshkar. The lead pair Asha Parekh and Joy Mukherjee look like they are made for each other in the song. The slow shift in the mood of the song from ebullience to helplessness is worth noticing. What begins as a love song expressing Asha’s confidence in her lover turns into a song of dilemma. Right after the first stanza, the nephew of her fiancé is kidnapped from the party. She gets a phone call from the kidnapper – her villainous uncle – that she must marry Pran, a fiend and a partner in crime, to secure the safe release of the boy. The lyricist – Hasrat Jaipuri – has written the song very intelligently. The lyrics are so subtle and yet so revealing.
Meri aankhon mein aansu hain, magar aansu khushi ke hain kise chhodu, kise paalu, ye rishtey zindagi ke hain ..... Udhar dil hain, idhar jaa hain, ajab mushkil ka saamaaa hain labon par muskurahat hain, magar saanson mein tufaan hain...
4) Apne Jeevan Ki Uljhan Ko (Uljhan, 1975) Lyricist: M.G.Hashmat; Music Directors: Kalyanji Anandji; Playback Singer: Sulakshana Pandit/Kishore Kumar. Uljhan – the title of the movie – means dilemma. This is a murder mystery where the husband (Sanjeev Kumar) is the investigating officer and the wife (Sulakshana Pandit) the murderess. It is therefore natural that as the plot thickens, both the wife and husband are thrown into a quandary. The wife cannot confide in her husband and the husband – who also dons the hat of the investigator – is unable to understand why his wife committed the murder. This is why there are two versions of the song – one from the wife’s perspective (sung by Sulakshana Pandit herself) and the other from the husband’s (sung by Kishore Kumar). Sulakshana sounds so very canorous.
Female Version (Sulakshana Pandit) ...Dil me aisa dard chhupa hain mujhse saha na jaaye kehna to chaahun apnon se main phir bhi kahaa na jaaye aansu bhi aankhon mein aaye chupke se pee jaaun Apne jeevan ki uljhan ko kaise main suljhaun beech bhawar me naav hain meri kaise paar lagaun Male Version (Kishore Kumar) ...Pyaar ke wade ho gaye jhuthe wafaa ke bandhan tute, banke jeevan-saathi koi chain mera kyu lute aise jeevansaathi se kaise saath nibhaun Apne jeevan ki uljhan ko kaise mai suljhaun apnon ne jo dard diye hain kaise main batlaun
5) Dil Apna Aur Preet Parayi ( Dil Apna Aur Preet Parayi,1960) Lyricist: Shailendra; Music Directors: Shankar Jaikishan; Playback Singer: Lata Mangeshkar. This is the title song of the movie. It sums up the dilemma of Meena Kumari, a nurse who is in love with the doctor (Raj Kumar) she works with but whom he does not marry because of his mother’s wishes. Meena Kumari has to constantly face Raj Kumar as she continues to work in the same hospital even after he gets married. It is this trauma that she suffers on a daily basis that makes her sing this song on the Diwali night, when the whole world is celebrating and she feels like venting her pent up emotions. While she loves Raj Kumar, she cannot express the same (openly) as he is now a married man. The agony gets compounded because Raj Kumar does not find his wife compatible.
Hain dard aisa ke sehna hain mushkil duniya waalon se kehna hain mushkil ghir ke aaya hain tufan aisa bach ke saahil pe rehna hain mushkil
There is yet another song in the movie that presents a dilemma – a frivolous one at that. Helen, dancing in the club croons – Itni Badi Mehfil aur Ik Dil, Dil Kisko Dun – which of course does not stand a chance before the dilemma of Meena Kumari!
6) Jeevan Ke Doraahe Pe Khade (Chhoti Si Mulaqaat, 1967) Lyricist: Shailendra; Music Directors: Shankar Jaikishan; Playback Singer: Lata Mangeshkar. This song is a lesser known one of a movie which had some memorable romantic songs. However, for the theme at hand, this is perfect. Vyjayantimala is married off as a child but her mother does not approve of this marriage. Thus, she is unaware of this fact. When she comes of age she falls in love with another man. It is then that she learns about her marital status. She is now in a dilemma as to whom to spend the rest of her life with and thus, this song. Shailendra’s lyrics explain her quandary very aptly.
Har mod pe deta hain ye sansar duhayi har gam pe deta hain mera pyar duhayi.. Is raaste mandir hain to us raste dharam jaaye to kidhar jaaye, jivan ke dorahe pe khade sochate hain ham
7) Kai Baar Yun Bhi Dekha Hain (Rajnigandha, 1974) Lyricist: Yogesh; Music Director: Salil Chowdhury; Playback Singer: Mukesh. This song from Basu Chaterjee’s movie ponders over life in fine quality, chaste Hindi. It talks of how, many a time, we end up pursuing mirages. The mind does not know where the limit is and so looks for new horizons and in the process occasionally ends up coming to grief as well. Here, there are old flames meeting after long. As Vidya Sinha, the heroine reminisces the past, she is unable to decide whom she should settle down with – her first love (Dinesh Thakur) or her present mate (Amol Palekar) – both being poles apart in terms of their outlook on life. This dilemma is what the song is all about. The magic of Salil Chowdhury’s music in the song complements the mood of the song wonderfully.
Jaanu na, jaanu na, uljhan ye jaanu na suljhaun kaise kuchh samajh na paaun kisko meet banaaun, kiski preet bhulaaun kayin baar yun bhi dekha hain ye jo man ki seema rekha hain man todne lagta hain anjaani pyaas ke pichhe anjaani aas ke pichhe man daudne lagta hain
8) Main Idhar Jaun Ya Udhar Jaun (Palki, 1967) Lyricist: Shakeel Badayuni; Music Director: Naushad; Playback Singers: Md.Rafi, Manna Dey and Asha Bhosle. This Qawwali from the movie Palki spells out the dilemma of the protagonists – Rajendra Kumar and Waheeda Rehmaan – in no uncertain terms. They both are at cross roads. Waheeda is married to Rehmaan but loves Rajendra Kumar. When their paths cross after her marriage, a lot of water has flown down the bridge. But memories of old commitments linger. This is a Qawwali which all the three mutely witness; the Qawwali presents their respective dilemmas. Rafi gets the lion share of the male Qawwal’s part – voicing the dilemma of Rajendra Kumar – with Manna Dey’s voice hardly being heard. Asha presents the conundrum of Waheeda Rehmaan. Antonyms – idhar-udhar, josh-hosh, choodon-aabaad karun, shamme wafa-shamme haya, sabr-betaab – have been skillfully paired by the lyricist, Shakeel Badayuni.
Male Voice (Md. Rafi) ...Hazaaron shamme jalkar dil ko kar deti hain deewaana aur unke beech mein ghir kar yehi kehta hain parwaana main idhar jaaun ya udhar jaun badi mushkil me hu ab kidhar jaun Female Voice (Asha Bhosle) ....Zindagi mujhko sahaara de de, daaman-e-sabr chhuta jaata hain ik taraf khwaab-e-imaan hain mera, ik taraf dil ka sanam khaana hain kisko chhodoon kise aabaad karoon, dil isi soch mein deewaana hain udhar shamme wafaa meri, idhar shamme hayaa meri lagi dil ki zara , tu hi bata, marzi hain kyaa teri main idhar jaaun ya udhar jaaun
9) Qaid Mein Hain Bulbul (Bedard Zamaana Kya Jaane, 1959) Lyricist: Bharat Vyas (Gulshan Bawra?); Music Director: Kalyanji Veerji Shah; Playback Singer: Lata Mangeshkar. This song, picturized on Jabeen Jalil, is a club song. Though I have not seen the movie, from the song it appears that Jabeen is being forced to dance in the club and she is helpless. She is doing it against her wishes. The lyrics reveal her dilemma. Though the lyricist is said to be Bharat Vyas, it is difficult to associate such Urdu lyrics with him. This movie had only Kalyanji directing music. Anandji – his brother – had not yet joined him. The movie had many other delightful songs.
Majboor hoon ke teri mehfil mein aa gaye hain mushkil yahi hain ab to mushkil mein aa gaye hain qaid mein hai bulbul saiyyad muskuraaye kaha bhi na jaaye chup raha bhi na jaaye
10) Uljhan Suljhe Na Rastaa Sujhe Naa (Dhund, 1973) Lyricist: Sahir Ludhianvi; Music Director: Ravi; Playback Singer: Asha Bhosle. This is a lovely piano song from a movie which is a complicated murder mystery. The song is picturized on Zeenat Aman who looks very pretty. She is trapped in a loveless marriage with a cruel wheelchair bound husband (Danny). She does have a sympathizer in Sanjay Khan. She is however just not sure about what the future holds for her. She is in a fix as to how to get the better of her husband. This song has the stamp of Ravi, the music director and Sahir, the lyricist with Asha lending her voice.
Uljhan suljhe na rasta sujhe na jaun kaha main jaun kaha mere dil ka andhera huwa aur ghanera kuchh samajh na pau, kya hona hain mera.. khadi dorahe par, yeh sochu ghabhrakar jaun kaha main jaun kaha..
11) Farz Roke Mohabbat Bulaye (Padosi, 1971) Lyricist: Asad Bhopal; Music Director: Ravi; Playback Singer: Asha Bhosle. This is a song that I happened to come across while searching for the conundrum songs. There is hardly any information about the movie or its plot to put this song in perspective. However, since it is a rare gem with the video available and an apt song for this post, I decided to include it, even though it is the eleventh. It is picturized on Rehana Sultan, a promising actress of the 1970s who got typecast and soon faded into anonymity. Here, the conflict seems to be between duty and love. How love has come in the path of duty is not clear from the song, though.
Farz roke mohabbat bulaaye kya karun kuch samajh mein na aaye Aansuon se chalakne laga hain lahu khakh mein mil gayi dil ki har aarzoo zindagi ro rahi muh chipaaye kya karun kuch samajh mein na aaye
Here ends my playlist of ‘catch-22 songs’. This post was a little tough to conjure up as the songs had to be put in perspective in order to understand what the dilemma actually was. I therefore ended up watching snippets of many a movie. Now, I know which movie to watch and which to avoid. There is no dilemma on that count!!
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